It’s Time to Get Unstuck
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Are you ready to take the first steps to breaking out of the rut you’re in and get on the road toward your best life?
Therapy can help individuals who have found themselves stuck in an unfulfilling, painful spot. It is a safe space to uncover the past events, experiences, and relationships that have led you to this place. Once we’ve brought these things out into the light, we can begin to untangle you from their hold, freeing you to heal and move forward.
Stories can help us to learn. These client stories, where the names and details have been changed, show us
examples of when and why people reach out to therapists and how therapy helps.
Rachel appeared to have it all together: a loving husband, adorable kids, great friends, actively involved in several local organizations. What others didn’t see was that she cried in the shower most mornings, snapped at her kids over seemingly silly things, worried that her husband found her boring and unattractive, and felt like an imposter when she was out with her friends wearing a fake smile.
She was terrified that someone would find out her secret; as charmed as her life appeared, she was incredibly depressed.
Rachel thought she was doing a good job keeping up appearances until one day her best friend told her she was concerned. Rachel didn’t seem herself, and hadn’t for a while. Was something wrong?
That was all it took; Rachel broke down in tears. Something was definitely wrong, but she didn’t know what. Ever since her youngest was born, she was overwhelmed with worry, felt disconnected from her husband, and just felt sad all the time.
Her friend suggested talking to a therapist, and Rachel found us.
In therapy, Rachel was able to uncover some causes of her anxiety and depression. She learned new ways to manage stress, and began to reengage with her loved ones.
Today Rachel feels at home in her skin again. Life with a young family is hard, but she’s strong.
For as long as she could remember, Janet had found things to be a little more difficult than those around her. She was incredibly smart and worked hard at everything she did, but it seemed like she was always struggling. She missed appointments, forgot to do things she’d told her husband she’d take care of, and frequently had to redo things at work because of multiple small errors.
Janet was doing her very best, but it seemed like she could never get ahead. She said a lot of nasty things to herself: “What’s wrong with you?” “How could you screw that up?” “You’ll never get yourself together.”
Her constant sense of failure was destroying her confidence.
Janet’s husband was generally very understanding and patient. He had come to expect her to forget things or act impulsively. But his patience was wearing thin. He started getting angry when Janet would forget something around the house, and was visibly exasperated when he heard that she’d been reprimanded at work again for a careless error. He told her something needed to change; he needed to see her make an effort to get herself together.
Janet came into therapy frustrated and angry at her herself and her husband. It was quickly apparent what Janet had been struggling with but never had a way to describe; she had ADHD.
In conjunction with medication, we coached Janet to harness her seemingly endless energy, develop strategies to manage the demands of everyday life, and find work that best fit her strengths.
Today Janet is a high performer in a more creative work environment, has a series of routines that she incorporates into daily life to stay on tops of tasks, and feels like she’s contributing to her home and relationships in a positive way.
Janet’s brain works differently than others’, but she is back in control.
Hannah was a high school junior. She had a vibrant group of friends, got decent grades, and was close with her younger sister. Earlier in the year, her parents were shocked when Hannah was suspended for unexcused absences from gym class. They asked Hannah what was going on, but she refused to answer. Trips to the school counselor didn’t go any better. Hannah would not go to gym class.
Hannah came to our office reluctantly. Her parents were hopeful but worn down. They had no clue what was going on, but this wasn’t the daughter they knew, and they were scared. We had a hunch about what was going on, but didn’t want to push her too soon. We simply asked Hannah if the issue was her gym shorts; she nodded.
Hannah can’t explain exactly how it started, but she had been self-injuring for several months. It had become her way of coping with anger, pain, frustration, loneliness, and pretty much anything else that happened.
We began our work together that day, and while the road was bumpy, and her parents had a hard time understanding at first, we slowly started unpacking the emotions that Hannah had been bottling up. She worked hard to learn healthier coping skills and reestablish trust with her parents.
Hannah is now successfully navigating high school, with all its ups and downs, and has laid the foundation for a positive transition to adult life. It won’t always be easy, but she’s prepared.
Jeff was living a dream worthy life: a rising star at his law firm, a supportive wife, close with his family, and had a great group of friends. He worked long hours, but he was dedicated to his job and wanted to excel, as he always did.
On the weekends, he enjoyed an active social life. To any outside observer, Jeff seemed to be a happy, healthy, popular guy with a great future in front of him.
People didn’t know about Jeff’s inner struggles. He felt like he was never good enough, like he had to outwork everyone around him in order to be successful. He felt anxious about his marriage and feared disappointing those he cared about. These feelings ate at him and often kept him awake at night.
In the past few months, there had been two major cases at work that Jeff really wanted to be assigned to, but he was skipped over for both of them. Jeff was quite upset, so he asked a coworker if he knew what was going on. He told him that people felt Jeff drank too much at work functions, and while it was usually fun, there were times that it crossed a line. His boss feared that Jeff might repeat this behavior with the important client and felt he could not take that risk.
Jeff was irate. He told his wife about it when he got home and she reminded him of the multiple times recently that he’d been sent home in a cab by his coworkers following Friday happy hours. She told him she felt like some of their friends had been avoiding plans on the weekend ever since he was kicked out of a bar with them last month.
Suddenly it seemed like there was a never-ending list of times that Jeff’s drinking had been too much. He was missing out on important work. He was losing friends. His wife was embarrassed.
All of the things he feared were starting to come true.
Jeff wasn’t thrilled to come to therapy, but he was afraid that his job and marriage were on the line. In therapy, he learned to identify the feelings that often led to drinking. He learned how to effectively communicate those feelings and needs to his wife in a way that she would understand.
Today Jeff is thriving in his job and marriage again. He’s regained the trust of those around him and is looking forward to the future he’s worked hard for. There will always be stressors in life, but Jeff can cope again.
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